Small Group Questions – Being a Father

Do you have a favourite super hero or fictional hero? Share who and why with the group.

Have one of the group read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Have another member of the group read Hebrews 12:1-3

Take some time to collect your thoughts and memories of your own father or significant father figure. If you are a father, reflect on your impact on those around you.
Be sensitive in this time that there are some who may celebrate and some who may mourn.

Share one positive memory of your father or father figure. For fathers, share a positive about your role and experience.

Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 again.
Celebrate God’s love, and the positive memories shared. Take time affirming and enjoying the good that father’s can do.

Reflect again for a few minutes, and allow the group to share a negative or damaging experience of a father or father figure. Those in the group that are fathers or father figures, reflect on the damage you may have caused.
Some may not choose to share, some may be blessed to have little to say, nonetheless, remain as a supportive group through this time.
This will take time. As group leader be prepared that this is emotional ground.

Recall the words of 1 Corinthians 13.
Mourn with each other for the broken relationships and damage, intentional and accidental. Take time to listen to each other, take time to listen to what the Holy Spirit has to say through this time.
Bring these wounds before Jesus in prayer. Pray for healing and forgiveness.

Share for a moment about your experience of God as Father.
Take a time of worship with this song, inspired by Luke 15 and Romans 8. Sing or listen as you feel comfortable: Good, Good Father

Read Hebrews 12:1-3 again.
Who is witness to your life?
What is it that you hope they are witness too?
Why does it matter to run the race of life with endurance?
What does it mean that Jesus is the “founder and perfector” of our faith?

If Jesus ‘despised’ the shame, what does that mean for those of us who feel ashamed? How does this give hope?
What encouragement do you gain from knowing Jesus sits at the right hand of God?

Pray sensitively for each other out of this time together. Pray again for healing and forgiveness. Pray that each of the group can focus on Jesus. Pray that each of the group can run with “endurance” because of the hope they have in Jesus. Give thanks for God that he is a good Father.